A recent survey conducted on love, relations and breakups explains majority of the relations doesn’t reach the next level and end up in tears.. either gal dumping a guy or vice versa. Lately people are supposed to be in casual relations and they end up losing interest and move away from the person who was close to them, saddest part is; it’s a slow process hence doesn’t let the other person, the counterpart in the relation to understand or realize what’s happening… coz u never know.. Nor is it taught in any schools or classrooms.. Relationship psychology it’s different…it’s complex and simple at the same time. Depends on how you pursue it. So people who get these signs act wisely, but believe me that crowd percentage is very less, only those people who have faced these relationship breakups or issues before, people who knew their mistakes and taken steps or alteast turned pretentious to show they have changed or they are clear and wont mess up this time. For the entire fresher crowd they act too naïve and ofcourse screw it up at some point, if they end up with a manipulative partner or a time pass partner as I would put it. Too many fish in the Sea is the common notion that drives through every brain who is in a relation or who is just out if it. But ask someone who is still single or never been in any relation- they may put it like- “it seems like I am trying to fish when its drought; no fish anywhere and my germs (sperms) are going waste!!”
Ironic isn’t it??
Let men come from Mars or women from the Venus and maybe the chromosome count of females is more than males that may make them more emotional and expressive too. I won’t agree it to 100% coz I feel even men are not without feelings but they are pretty straight forward mostly, unless they purposely want to trick you. All the other times things turn out to be bad mainly coz the guy n gal think in two different ways about a thing. basically women (includes me too), we think a lot even for the smallest issues we take them as if world war IV is coming up and start feeling our issues are to be considered as the most critical issue in the whole world. Whatever may happen across, we don’t care. Sometimes this makes women turn too demanding. But they feel so pathetic about themselves; feel they are not getting attention, but never try to sit and think why and the reasons which led to it and ya even if they think, it will be in the reverse order. Most women commit this mistake of over commitment-that is the first step of a relation to get ruined. We fail to understand when we over do, it gets sceptical and the fellow being pushes back. Hardly does any woman get this sign and signal that, what she’s doing is wrong and it does workout very well, but in the exact opposite way. And finally one day she gets dumped, and then she does more things to make it worse and eventually its over - the relation.
Same is with men; where in women think a lot, men on the other side think a lot too, but in a different angle. They become too possessive and demanding, some may turn to be a nightmare worse than your most hated manager by being so stalking, controlling so that eventually you just want to run away from that person and forget about the relation, it turns to be a problem and you foresee and push back. But men never give up unless women. When women sit and cry and demand attention as in demanding mercy, men demand attention by showing their strength and power. Women in these stories tolerate to a great extent coz the “LOVE”,” Sentiments” factor prevails. But in due course she feels punished this way, and she leaves. Men don’t stop either, they start persuading his lady, try to forcefully possess her, abuse her, coax her (as a last resort). But what he doesn’t see is LOVE is lost and its dead. And this state is never going to change unless he changes himself and tries to be normal. Another factor about men is that they don’t value something which they get so easily and is available to them; women basically value people to a certain extent unless it’s tiring for them. The taken for granted part is prominent in men and they always seek the impossible and unapproachable. Not many men will deny this statement.
There is a statement- it’s hard to please a man and a woman at the same time .Reason is- things that please them are different. Woman can be pleased by a piece of Jewellery, but for a man if he has fallen apart, he needs another lady itself to get pleased and attracted. Happens in more than 80% cases. So I would like to conclude herewith a statement – Be yourself and never lose you for anyone. Changes are for good if they are good changes. Value the fellow beings, their time, their space and their attributes .Be understanding as well as considerate.
Cheers & smiles,
Anu
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